33 Tips For a Bigger, Fuller Life

(Whether or not you‘re waiting for that someone special)

Marla Bishop
8 min readNov 22, 2023


I’m a Relationship Coach & Writer / pic taken by my husband

How to use: You can do each one as many times as you want, but I suggest you try every one at least once. They’re not in any particular order of importance but start as soon as possible, today or tomorrow latest. The idea is to get busier and thus have less time to worry about when you’ll meet The One, or move on in your current relationship. Trust me, you will, when the time is right.

  1. Give yourself a treat every day. Having something to look forward to on a daily basis is one of things that keeps us well and happy. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a bubble bath, sitting in a rose garden or talking on the phone to your best friend, start today to schedule a daily treat in your diary.

2. Speak to someone who will listen to you every day. It only has to be a ten-minute conversation, but you need to be share your innermost thoughts with someone. Bitch and moan sessions occasionally are fine, but more important is to have positive conversations daily — aim keep the talk upbeat and light — unless you are really experiencing difficulties, in which case it’s fine to moan for five minutes max. There are hundreds of thousands of support groups available (especially fellowships) Or get yourself a therapist or counsellor.

3. Learn to accept yourself just as you are. Self care is essential for good self esteem and besides, it makes you look good! Manicures, pedicures, facials… whatever you can afford and as often as you can. Once a month or so is my personal minimum, though I do less in the winter and more in the summer. Make sure you’re making and keeping medical and dental appts, especially medicalappts like smear tests.

4. We all know it’s essential to exercise regularly. Make it fun! Do what you like to, whether it’s the gym, or a regular swim, run or power walk — exercising is good for you and makes you look and feel good. I am a member of Parkrun and every year I take part in at least one fun run and the annual swimathon.

5. Aim for positive, affirmative and/or uplifting self talk: Remember, you are free (not single). You are a beautiful, accomplished woman and any man (or woman)…



Marla Bishop

Londoner, philosophy graduate, journalist, relationship coach, wife & mother. MA in Novel Writing; working on 1st novel. Follow me: